September 24, 2008

The Big 4-O

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Today was my birthday.  Also my hubby’s birthday but he’s only 39 so this was “the big one” for me.  LOL!  Why does everyone get so freaked about 40?  It’s just a number, much like age is only a state of mind and in my mind I still feel young.  I would hate to be in my 20’s again.  I feel like I didn’t blossom until my mid 30’s.  Does that sound silly?   Does this mean now that I am officially 40 that I have to grow up? 

 I read an article the other day that said studies have shown the older you are, the happier you are in general with your life.  I totally agree with that.  It stated that older people found joy in the simpler things in life.  Now I know they were referring to people in the late 60’s but I can relate that to my life.  I get so excited to see a rose bloom on my rose bush or have a dove build a nest and hatch her eggs on my patio.  My husband will call me to the window to see a beautiful red bird playing in our yard and that makes me smile like a loon lol. 

I love my life!  I am happy with what I’ve learned in 40 years and I look forward to 40 more.

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August 31, 2008

Love is patient, love is kind

Posted in Uncategorized tagged , , , at 6:19 pm by sillydreamer

I don’t claim to be a perfect parent by any means.  I know we all have those less than stellar parenting moments that you hope no one witnesses but I want to share with you the most pitiful experience I witnessed on Friday night.

At the football game Friday night, a family/group of people sat down a few rows ahead of us.  There was a Dad, Mom, two female friends and two small little boys, 4ish and 6ish.  In case you didn’t already know, football games are boring to kids (and some adults, ahem).  They don’t get what’s going on and it’s two and half hours of trying to entertain yourself.  These parents/adults wanted their kids to sit still and look straight ahead.  Yeah, right.  They never talked to these boys except to make mean faces and repeatedly say, “no, stop, don’t, or I’m about to get you” and usually a smack on the leg went along with that.  They didn’t try to engage these kids, entertain them, play with them, nothing.  The younger boy had a small stuffed animal that he was playing with and was tossing it down a couple of rows, walking down to get it, then tossing it back up to the original spot.  He wasn’t bother anyone, wasn’t getting in anyone’s way or anything.  Mean face Daddy takes notice, got up, snatched the toy up, never saying a word to the boy but making a very stern face at him and then keeps the stuffed animal.  You should have seen the little boy’s face fall.  It was so sad. 

The whole scenario just made me sad for those boys.  I’m not kidding when I say that those adults never once spoke to those kids except to get on to them.  They certainly never smiled at them or were kind to them in anyway.  They gave no indication in the two and half hours that I was behind them that those kids were anything to them but an annoyance.   As I said before, I know we all have moments that we hope no one witnesses but my goodness, I would hate for someone to watch me for two and half hours and wonder why I even had kids!  There was a small group of pre teen boys sitting behind this man and apparently they were being too loud and he makes a big show of turning all the way around and giving them a very menacing look.  At this point I really just wanted to push him all the way down to the bottom of the bleachers!  I know, not very neighborly of me, is it?  The sad thing is, in a few years (if not already) those boys will feel the same way about their Dad that I did.  What else is he teaching them?  It breaks my heart to think about it.

August 28, 2008

Fly away little birdies

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I miss these little guys!  Way back in the spring, we had a mama dove build a nest up on the header beam of our patio and it’s been used  three different times to raise little birdy families.  I’ve been such an absolute nut about it…..these are just two of the countless photos I’ve taken of them.  The mama (or I guess it could be the daddy) sits in the nest for about three weeks solid.  I don’t really know how long it takes for the eggs to hatch but I know it’s almost a month before we get to see the babies.  Once we see them though, it’s about a week or so and then they are gone.  Aren’t they cute?  I would climb up on the counter and snap pictures through my kitchen window so I wouldn’t disturb them.  The family before this one I actually got to see the babies after they left the nest.  I wish I had gotten to see them actually fly away for the first time but I didn’t.  When I did see them, they were hanging around on the swingset.  I was amazed at how big they were!  I was determined to see these little guys make their first flight but that didn’t happen either.  I had been out running errands and when I got home and checked on them, the nest was empty.  I was so disappointed!! 

About a week before these little guys flew away, I noticed this ritual they did with their Mom every day.  All three of them would put their beaks together and sway in a circle.  It was the oddest thing I’ve ever seen!  They did this several times a day.  And yes, I spent lots and lots of time just watching these guys which I know makes me sound pathetic but I couldn’t help myself.  My family was beginning to get a little worried I think.  I wonder if all mama birds do this with their babies or if it was just this one and if it has any meaning?

I miss this little birdy family.  I looked forward to getting up and seeing them every morning.  I’ve had several doves sit up in that nest in the last few weeks but so far none of them have stayed.  I was hoping to get one more little family up there before fall but I don’t think that’s going to happen.  Maybe next spring 🙂

August 27, 2008

Off they go

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Monday was the girls’ first day back to school.  Haley is a senior and Heather and Holly are juniors.  Unbelievable!  I have taken a picture of them on their first day of school since kindergarten and they never seem to get any happier about that fact!  Oh well, I’m the Mom and we will do as I say when it comes to taking pictures.  Besides, this is Haley’s last year and Heather and Holly only have one more time to endure this tradition.

What makes this year very different for me is the fact that Haley is driving them all to school in her car.  I  have driven them practically every single day of their school career and now I’m not.  One part of me is happy about not having to deal with the morning rush but the other part of me is very sad that they are doing this on their own….without me.   I actually teared up a little as they pulled away from the curb.

July 31, 2008

Shimmer

Posted in Uncategorized tagged , , , , at 4:39 am by sillydreamer

Last night I went and visited a friend and her brand new baby in the hospital.   Is it just me or is there just an indescribable energy that radiates from a newborn?  You stand in the room and you just feel that something precious and pure has just washed over you.  It always makes me think of this song, which is one of the best songs ever written in my opinion.  My favorite line is “true love, it is a rock, smoothed over by a stream, and no ticking of a clock can truly measure what that means.”

Ok, I have tried for 10 minutes to get this stupid video to post to no avail so I’m giving up and going to bed.  I’ll try again tomorrow.

Screw it…..here’s the link lol.

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July 22, 2008

Family fun

Posted in Uncategorized tagged , , , , at 4:00 am by sillydreamer

It’s not often that all five of us do something together…..willingly at least…..so going to see “The Dark Knight” was kind of a big deal for us.  That’s what we did on Sunday on it was fun.  Poor hubby had worked an 18 hour shift so we were going to postpone until later in the week but he didn’t want to spoil anyone’s fun so he napped for a few hours, went to the movies and then went back to work as soon as it was over.  He’s such a guy!  I could write a whole other entry about him but I’ll save it for another time.   I will say that I hope my daughter’s find a husband as good as the one I’ve got 🙂

The movie was good and it’s a shame that Heath Ledger isn’t here to see how people are loving what he created.  Too young and too soon.  My oldest daughter has loved him forever.  I have been looking at pictures on her walls for years so needless to say, she was really sad when he passed away.  I can relate…..I still miss Andy Gibb!  If you don’t know who I’m talking about then you’re probably too young to be reading my blog.  Just kidding!

Another fun family thing I’ve done, although just with my twins so far, is to play Disney’s Scene It game.  It’s really fun and I can’t wait until all of us sit down and play.  We love Disney 🙂  I used some of my “My Points” for gift cards and saved $20 on the purchase so of course I love it that much more lol.

Speaking of My Points, if you aren’t familar with it, you should check it out.   It’s an online program you sign up for and they send you several emails a day and all you do is click on the link and earn points.  Usually it’s 5 points but sometimes more depending on what it is.  If you sign up for different things then you earn more but all I ever do is click on the link.  These points accumulate then you cash them in for different rewards.  Usually I redeem them for Starbucks or Wal-Mart cards.  There are many different things to choose from…Target, Linens & Things, etc.   You can also shop online and earn points for every dollar spent at various sites.  Again, all I usually do is click.  I’ve been doing it for a few years and have earned several gift cards along the way.  It’s a good way to pick up a little extra “cash” from time to time and who doesn’t want that?  You can check them out at www.mypoints.com

Bonus…..I was off by 3:15 today!  I know I was just off for two whole days but there is just something about getting off early and double bonus when it’s unexpected.  I love that!

July 20, 2008

Heartbreak Hotel

Posted in Uncategorized tagged , , , , , , , at 4:39 pm by sillydreamer

I knew it was inevitable having three teen age daughters so here we are dealing with our first real broken heart.  Of course I’m really sad to see my child so upset but a small part of me is a little relieved.  I want them to be happy and have good relationships but I also don’t want to see them tied to one person and miss out on just being a teen.  I know this will all be ok but being the 16 year old girl with a broken heart, you don’t see that.  I remember being dumped at that age by the “love of my life” and it really stinks.

It’s interesting to see the advice the other two are giving their sister.  One daughter has been telling her to dump him for two weeks.  Apparently he’s been wanting to break up and when he finally did, he told her that he had been trying to make her mad for the past two weeks so she would break up with him.  Don’t you remember how silly and childish you could be at that age?    Looks like sister was right all along 🙂

My heartbroken one, of course, wants to get back together with him and he told her he wants to come over on Sunday evening when he gets back in town so they can talk.  I was talking about it with my oldest daughter and she was agreeing with me that him coming over is not a good idea.  She told me that if she were in that situation and ex boyfriend wanted to come over she would tell him “suck it, you aren’t coming to my house.”  LOL!  Now THAT’S my child!  I will never forget when she was in about the third grade she had a “boyfriend” at school and she got mad at him on the playground and she told him “when I count to three, it’s over…..one….two…three…IT’S OVER”.  This child takes absolutely no gruff from anyone and I love that about her.  I told her that my advice to her sister was probably falling on deaf ears but to feel free and talk to her all she wants because she will heed her words more than mine at this point.

I know that there is a good chance they will end up dating again so I’m not saying too much at this point.  He handled the breaking up badly but hey, he’s a 17 year old boy so what do you expect?  These are lessons we all have had to learn in life and while I see it for what it is…..a high school break up…..I understand that for her, it’s her whole world so I’m picking my words carefully and trying to stay as neutral as possible.  I wouldn’t want to have to go through that age again for anything!

July 16, 2008

Rain, glorious rain

Posted in Uncategorized tagged , , , , , , at 12:13 am by sillydreamer

I’m so happy right now because it’s raining.  Not just a little shower, this is a full on down pour and I hope it lasts for a couple of hours at least 🙂  We need it so badly right now.

Thankfully, hubby didn’t wash the cars or else I wouldn’t be relishing this quite so much lol.

Guess what I was supposed to do today?  Serve jury duty!  I called last night and was told it was cancelled so I didn’t have to do it.  it’s not that I didn’t want to, because I think it would have been interesting, but I hate to put my daycare parents in a position that they have to find someone else to take care of their children or take off from work.  Actually, the parents of one of my little guys are both attorneys so they of course understand and didn’t have a problem with it but did try and get me out of having to serve.  It didn’t work though and if the trial wasn’t cancelled I would have been pleading my case with the judge this morning to try and get excused.  Maybe some day I will have a “normal” job where all I have to do is make one call to my boss and tell them I won’t be in due to jury duty.

Not much else is happening in my world lately.  I’ve almost finished quilting my blanket and hopefully will be able to start the binding tomorrow.  I read on someone’s blog (sorry, I can’t remember who’s) recently that they sewed the binding to the back of the quilt and then used a decorative stitch to sew it down on the front so I thought I might try that and see if I like it.  It would certainly save a lot of time!  I’ll share pictures when I’m done.

Still raining 🙂

July 7, 2008

Playland Etiquette

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It’s been so flipping hot here that we haven’t really played outside much, which is not a good thing.  Last Thursday, Hubby and I loaded up my three daycare kidlets and off we went to Chick-fil-A for a little snack and some fun in their play area.  When my kids were little we spent many hours playing in these type places but I had forgotten a few things.

Some people think turning their little ones out to the play area means they are totally fine by themselves.  Why they think this I do not know because it’s mass chaos out there and there is always one or two of “those” kids who really, really need some supervision.  I am not about to say that I was the perfect, supervising Mother with my own kids but I was at least on hand, within earshot or line of vision to see what was going on.   We had two out there calling the other kids names, blocking the entrance to the slide and, my favorite, climbing on the outside of the structure.  Both Moms are chatting away inside the restaurant without a care in the world.  That just drives me crazy.  Hubby and I both had to make a few comments to them and as they were leaving, we heard one of them “telling” on us lol.  We were very nice and respectful and know that it really wasn’t our place to do but for goodness sakes if we didn’t, who would?  After spending a few minutes with these boys I think I can understand why their Mother’s turned them loose out there.  They probably needed a break!

June 24, 2008

My most bizarre summer

Posted in Uncategorized tagged , , , , , , , at 3:03 pm by sillydreamer

I first want to start this post by saying I don’t mean to offend any resident of Arkansas or anyone of the Pentecostal religion.  These are my preceptions as a 9 year old child.

I have always loved summer!  Not because of the weather, because I don’t do heat, but just the change of pace from the school year.  Even now I look forward to leaving the crush of the girls’ school year behind and enjoying a slower paced schedule.

Of course, as a child myself, it was one hundred times better.  I remember counting down the days until finally, FINALLY our summer vacation officially began.  It seemed like summer break lasted forever but I guess when you’re a child, everything seems to last forever.  Once you’re an adult, time flies!

I’ve mentioned a few times about how disfunctional my family is and I don’t mean that in a “poor me” kind of way, I’m just stating the facts.  My parents divorced when I was in the third grade and I lived with my Dad and my younger brother and sister.  The fact that my parents was divorced wasn’t a big deal, just part of our lives but the fact that we were being rasied by my Dad was out of the norm and therefore, a big deal.  No one I knew had divorced parents but it seemed fine….a relief actually, that mine were.  My Dad was also a raging alcoholic who was not pleasant to be around.  The majority of his brothers were also alcoholics, except for the religious one who lived in Arkansas.  By the time I was in 4th grade, I don’t think I remember meeting him and his family but maybe once.

So it’s summer and I was eagerly looking forward to the long days of hanging around doing nothing.  My Dad worked so that left me in charge of my younger brother and sister.  All of my friend’s Mom’s didn’t work but oddly, there was no problem letting them come stay at my house all day.  Can you even imagine a house full of unsupervised children with the oldest being 9?  That’s just the way it was back then and no one thought anything of it.  Amazingly, we all survived lol.

My Dad comes home from work one evening and announces that the three of us were going to spend the summer with our Aunt and Uncle in Arkansas.  This was not good news and it only got worse when he said they should be driving up any minute to pick us up.  What??  Why???  How long???  I don’t remember how but thankfully my best friend Misty showed up so I could at least say good bye to her. 

So off we go to Siloam Springs, Arkansas to stay with the uber religious relatives.  Now, as crazy as my Dad and the rest of the family was, I viewed this family as the nutty one.  When we attended church it was a Baptist one and on a couple of occasions we did go to a Pentecostal one and it was a little scary to me.

The first thing we did when we got to their home was have all of our clothes taken away because girls were not allowed to wear shorts, only dresses.  They were nice about it but there was no way not to say that to a child and not make them feel ashamed that we were dressing in a way that was sinful.  A quick scan of their home also reveals that there is no television and the only music allowed was christian music.  Again, we must have one foot in hell already because we owned these things at home!  LOL!  I loved watching TV and loved music even more.

I don’t want to sound ungrateful because it was very nice of them to take us for the summer.  I’m not really sure the reason why because we had stayed home alone before but there we were, in Siloam Springs, Arkansas trying to make the best of things.  My aunt worked and was gone most of the time but she was a very nice woman, who truly had the patience of a saint to put up with my uncle.  He didn’t work, due to a (supposed) disability and he was loud, opinionated and abrasive.  All I remember about him was yelling and being unhappy.  I don’t remember him ever yelling at me but just yelling in general.  Day in, day out.

One day he tells us he is going to take us swimming!  Woohoo, at home we went to the swimming pool all the time so I was very excited.   Swimming to them was one, only to be done in a dress, two, only with your family members and three, only in a very secluded place so down to the nasty river we go.  The river where we spy a water mocassin swimming along as if he owned the river.  Since he is a poisonous snake, in my books he did.  My uncle seemed totally unconcerned and told us to get in anyway.  I waded to about my knees and decided that was enough swimming for me!  

Attending church was a little unnerving at first but eventually I was ok with it.  As I said, the majority of my church services were Baptist and you probably couldn’t be any more opposite to Baptist than Pentecostal.   

Even though the situation wasn’t ideal and I would have much rather been at home with my friends, I did have fun with my cousins.  They had three boys and a daughter of their own so as I said, it was very nice of them to take us in.  All the boys were older and I thought they were so cool.  The oldest one really had conflict with his Dad and I felt badly for him.  They fought constantly and the Dad always found fault with David no matter what.  I heard years later that once David left home he never went back.  He stayed in touch with his Mom but had no contact with his Dad.  His Mom passed away a couple of years ago and he didn’t attend the funeral.  He had always told his Mom that if she died first he wouldn’t come for the funeral because of his Dad.  I’m proud to say that he went on to college and last I heard, he was running a charter school somewhere here in Texas.  As far as I know, my uncle is still alive.  I don’t know what happened to the other boys but I did hear that the daughter was in prison. 

I distinctly remember the moment I heard Elvis had died.  My older cousins always had the radio on, christian station only, at night.  I remember laying on the floor just about to fall asleep when I heard it.  Now, I wasn’t much of an Elvis fan because I was young but I obviously knew who he was and I was shocked to hear that he passed away. 

A few nights after that, my aunt and uncle wake me up to say that my Dad is there to pick us up.  This is par for my family, no warning or plans, it just happens.  Of course I was excited to be going home but I knew I would miss the boys.  Also, I had eaten some homemade blueberry pie that didn’t sit well with me so  I knew the long drive home would not be enjoyable.  I was right!

A few weeks after we were home my Dad told me that the reason he showed up unannounced was that his Mother had called and told him that my aunt and uncle were planning to place the three of us in a children’s home in Virginia.  Now I don’t know how this could be done without his permission but my
Dad was convinced enough that he came anyway.  I never heard from or saw my aunt and uncle after this and as far as I know, neither did my Dad. 

And that my friends, was my most bizarre summer.  Someday I will share with you my most bizarre Christmas lol.

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